When we are forgetful of who we are within, when we are not present at all times with our fullness — meaning that we are not allowing at all times of all that we are — we create within us friction.
This friction could be likened to the knocking of heads or coming to blows with a sibling you dislike. You see, the siblings are of the same family, they are of the same collective, but they are striving for one-upmanship at all times. They are striving for their way or their view or their desires or their voice or their presence to be honoured more than the other’s.
In my household, with two boys of a similar age, I know that friction well! But it serves a purpose beyond the friction it creates. You see, it brilliantly welcomes into our family the differences inherently within the individual family members. It’s just that the siblings are not freely allowing of the differences I speak of.
How I handle the differences and the friction is important. I could dishonour their expression of their differences, encouraging them to get along for the sake of the family, but this would only lead to the view that friction is negative, as if to fight or knock heads or rub each other the wrong way is unnatural, when in actual fact, it is how they learn that they are unique and how they learn that uniqueness is confrontational when it’s not allowed.
Instead of shaming the friction in my family, perhaps I could allow it to highlight just how much I deny friction within. You see, my children’s fighting is perhaps a reflection of an inner fighting I’m only just becoming aware of.
Perhaps within me there are differences fighting for freedom. Perhaps an element of my Being wishes to be isolated where I cannot sense disapproval by others, where I cannot project my fear of judgement onto them. And perhaps another aspect of my fullness wants to proudly honour my truth, unhindered by fear of its reception, unafraid of how my fullness will be perceived. But I sense that I feel like my fullness does not include the isolated desires I also experience. Can you see where I’m heading with this example?
My fullness is not just the courageous expression of my truth. It is not just my unhindered embracement of the Wisdom I receive or of the energy healing I honour. It is also all the fear that I hide behind when I feel inferior or judged by those around me.
If I was to allow equally within me those opposites, realising that they will always simply be within me, realising that I will never not be without one or the other, then the friction between them vanishes because suddenly I am not striving to experience a particular energy within me.
Instead, I have allowed the fullness of who I am to simply be, and then those inner siblings of opposites are no longer competing for one-upmanship, they are simply being, at all times, what they are: an equal energy freely allowed, welcomed, and honoured as one.
I’ll let you know how my outer world reflects this deepening appreciation!
Thank you.
Kirsty
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