When we are certain of who we are, we are never judged by another because we never receive an opinion, behaviour, conversation or situation as judgement. We simply experience it for what it is, and then we let it go.
Introduction:
I received this Freedom Wisdom a few weeks ago, and I have listened to it repeatedly — not because its message is complicated, just because it offers me so much insight into judgement.
Judgement complicated my life for many years, but I was not understanding of its true source. I falsely assumed that the judgement I experienced came from outside of myself, that it was an attack from another. That misunderstanding kept me in the dark because it kept me from exploring the truth within — that, in actual fact, the only judgement that darkened my glow was the judgement I offered myself.
You see, the truth is that no one else could ever be credited with darkening my glow because no one else can control what I absorb internally. That power belongs to me. That power is mine to give away, but that power is also mine to use wisely.
Power is a great gift. It is also a great cause of suffering, but only if it is used for purposes other than Love; only if it is appropriated not by your fullness, but by your ego. My ego denied my fullness power when it convinced me that I was worthy not of Love, but of judgement. (It’s such an ego word, judgement, because it speaks to a divide, whereas allowance speaks to a fullness.)
This Freedom Wisdom offers insight about how we perceive judgement from another. It touches on the blame that we are conditioned to instantaneously respond with, and it touches on the truth about how we project our judgement within externally.
I am honoured to receive these Freedom Wisdoms, but do not misunderstand the purpose behind them. I do not share them from a position of better than, as I, too, learn so much from the messages that I pass on. My own experiences are simply drawn upon for expression of the message.
As you read or watch this Wisdom, be curious about any judgement you may experience towards what I share or how I share it. Notice how your mind responds. It could, quite possibly, be the most brilliant exercise you’ll do all day because it will highlight how you judge, not me but yourself. You see, we can only judge another if we are first judging of our own self.
So be curious, be curious, be curious! Perhaps you will uncover a suppressed energy you did not even know you held. And if you do, then offer it not judgement, just compassionate awareness. For it is only an energy, and it is only alerting you to a block within. With that understanding, perhaps you could extend a little gratitude to any judgement you discover within. For without it, how would you ever have become aware of an energy that is perhaps masking your truth, dampening your glow? With that awareness, you can offer it Love, and then you can let it go.
Thank you.
Kirsty x
Transcript of recorded Freedom Wisdom:
Judgment gets a bad rap. Judgement is misunderstood. Judgement is made out to be the baddie. If someone is judging us, we think it is on them. We think that they are in the wrong — they are denying us, they are rejecting us. Whilst that may be true on some levels, they are also guiding us, directing us, acting as an invitation to discover where we are judging ourselves within.
You see, we only experience judgement from another when we are dishonouring of our own self first. We only experience another’s opinion or another’s words or another’s behaviour as a judgement of our self when we are not certain of who we are, when we are not remembering of our truth.
If we are certain of who we are, if we deeply feel the Love that we are, then we are never judged by another because we can never receive that opinion or behaviour or conversation or situation as judgement. We only experience it for what it is, and then we let it go. We do not allow it to connect. It can’t connect to Love because as soon as it attempts to, it’s just transformed. Because you see, Love is unconditional. Love has no judgement. It has no “better than” or “worse than”. It just has this light that shines upon the all evenly, equally.
So, if another attempts to judge, then that Love just brilliantly shines upon that judgement, and when Love truly shines upon something, then not is it "judgement" or "negative" or "bad". It is just something that is compassionately embraced; it is just an energy that is compassionately allowed. It is allowed to breathe, it is allowed to be, and it is allowed to pass by.
Does that illustrate the difference? If I am judging of myself and then I receive this perceived judgment by another, then that energy is drawn in, it connects to the energy within me that is already there, that already exists, that’s perhaps so deeply there, it’s been suppressed, it’s hidden. But this energy, this hidden energy, this deeply-suppressed energy is what is attracting this judgement or perhaps what is projecting a perceived judgement onto the situation.
But once I have cleared that judgement of myself, once I have released that suppressed energy, then if another attempts to judge me and I know that I am just Love, that I am just this pure light within, free from blocks within, then this judgement comes towards me, and it is embraced in a circle of compassion, a ring of compassion. No longer is it perceived as judgement. No longer is it attacking of my Being. It is honoured for what it is, it is offered no more than Love, and then it is set free.
So if you feel that you are being judged constantly, if you feel that another never feels like you are enough, then unwrap the lessons within that. Unwrap the beautiful signposts within that, for they are showing you where you are still blocked within yourself. They are indicating an energy within you that you may not have known was there.
My heart is open. My heart is so open that I want to offer Love to the All. I just want to Love, I just want to honour your Love, and if that is judged by another, if that is denied by another, then that is OK with me. That is more than OK. Because that judgement does not come from within me, that judgement cannot dampen the glow that I am. It is a mere cloud, if you like, passing by.
I used to harbour deep judgement of myself — painful, overwhelming, suffocating judgement. I feel like choking when I think of that judgement, and because of that, I used to feel judged by others all the time. Left, right and centre: judged, judged, judged, judged, judged. I felt constantly out of my alignment. I felt constantly attacked, constantly misunderstood. But I realise now that I misunderstood who I was. So really, the judgement that I perceived to be coming from another was just mirroring the judgement that I felt for myself — this misconception that I had about who I was.
I cleared all of those blocks. I freed myself from the prison that they contained me in. It doesn’t mean that I don’t ever feel judged now, because I do sometimes. I do feel judged sometimes. But what it does mean now is that I allow that feeling of judgement. I bring it into my ring of compassion. I honour it; I unwrap it. I look to see if there is still some judgement of myself, and if there is, I process that. But then I let it go because I understand that it really has nothing to do with my truth.
I am beyond judgement because I am Love. I am beyond being deemed inferior or superior because I am Love. I am beyond being right or wrong because I am Love. I am beyond being perfect or imperfect because I am Love.
Understand that if you judge another, you are simply projecting a judgement you hold within. Imagine if we all knew that? Then if we were ever aware of someone judging another, we would all be understanding of the reason behind it — that this person who is offering the judgement is blocked to their truth, blocked to their fullness.
We judge when we forget who we are, when don’t know that we are Love, because unconditional Love cannot judge. Can you see there, even in the definition of the word, how that is impossible because the very meaning of unconditional is free from judgement. It means that no matter what, you are Love.
So the little takeaway from this Freedom Wisdom today is perhaps the understanding that those who you perceive to be judging you are your divine teachers, if you like. They are your guides, they are your signposts, they are your invitations to learn where you are judging yourself within. Because if you are not judging yourself within, then that energy of judgement from another is non-existent, then that energy of judgement from another is not judgement at all. It’s just an opinion!
Understand that who you are is beyond judgment. Understand that who you are is unconditional Love. Understand that who you are is allowance of the all. Understand that that allowance of the all is Love.
Thank you.
Kirsty
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